If he plays golf for four hours every Saturday and Sunday, and you see it as a perfect time to ride your bike or see your girlfriends, that’s cool. Just don’t lose sight of the fact that every second you spend apart is a second you could be spending together. And last thing you want to be is the couple that leads separate lives, with hobbies that take the place of conversation and connection. I know that the most important things to look for in a man are his character and how he treats me. However, most of the guys I meet online have hobbies that include things like extreme hiking, skiing, biking, four-wheeling, etc. I know I could just search for guys who are more low-key and into things I’m into but when these sporty/outdoorsy guys message me, should I ignore them?
Signs Your Date Isn’t Interested in You
Work on moving forward and moving past this relationship. If he doesn’t then he was never going to and you should be grateful you aren’t wasting anymore time. I have a question after reading about why a guy suddenly loses interest.
Don’t Be Clingy
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Its 21 century, i must repeat things has changed and I call for equality. Because articles like this in a subtle way hurts maybe many woman (and i understand – this wasn’t an intention) but they create impressions, that its us who just didn’t get it right. Yes i understand it doesn’t feel right,but maybe guys should also think what they do wrong that dynamic is not great to make a woman happy. I have always noticed that guys were always attracted to me most when I was least interested in them. However after coming out of a long term relationship I totally forgot about all this and ended up showing too much interest in a guy, which lead to things ending between us. However since then he recently contacted me, but I didn’t respond back because I didn’t want him to be under the impression that I am still really interested.
There’s 3 specific situations I’ve experienced this. The first guy led me on and pretended he wanted a relationship when he really didn’t, which he told me 3 months after officially asking me to be his girlfriend. I have a re-occurring issue where I attract guys who are really into me to start with, then they lose interest. But they aren’t ready to cut ties immediately and drag things out for a bit, so they are still somewhat interested, but not enough.
You’re going to want to get closer and spend more time, which just makes him want to run even more. But hold on here a minute — everything I said up there is true of everyone in modern industrialized cities. Unless we pay a little bit more attention and cut each other some slack, we’re all going to be right. Perhaps people are even more particular with sex than with food. There’s some sexual analog out there for being vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, paleo, organic, eating your steak rare, whatever. I can see prolonged tantric sex mapping onto the slow food movement, and maybe S&M is like being a hot sauce fanatic.
You Don’t Feel Worth It
If he agrees to the date, your behavior will either make or break the entire situation. Keep reading to see how you can pull this off to get your guy to regain his interest in you. We definitely don’t suggest that you sit and wait in silence forever.
I thought when I ended things a year ago and went no contact, that maybe he missed me and had a change of heart but when pressed for something more, he made up excuses. We’re both 60 yrs old and I guess the game playing never stops. He supposedly is divorced for many years now but his actions prove otherwise. Why would you feel you have to lie after all this time and I wonder if maybe he was feeling it but I screwed it up by asking for more of his off time. Again, a woman’s emotions do not CAUSE a guy to lose interest.
If a man feels that you’re coming on too fast, without giving them the chance to get to know you and chase you, it can drive a man away. Since 2008 I’ve been coaching men and women to archieve succes and happiness in their love lives. Whatever the reason behind his commitment issues, it is important not to put too much pressure on him.
He doesn’t notice anything about you
It’s a rare man indeed who bothers to ask how you’re doing in general. Stand strong, demand some real answers, and do whatever it takes to get him to understand you’re not going to take his crap. If he thinks you will, he’s going to end up single in a hot minute.
I do think it’s important to distinguish between apparent minor fluctuations in interest and a sustained withdrawing of interest and affection. To really have a clear understanding of your partner wants, needs, interest, and yours this means communication and building on that which takes place in phases 2 and 3 of love. I believe we are all intuitive to varying degrees. And do if something doesn’t feel right, we have to honor that and speak up.